What are BBW and BHM?

A BBW is pretty much a fat woman, considered to be overweight to most people of society. BBW is short for “Big Beautiful Woman.” A BHM is pretty much the male counterpart of a BBW. BHM stands for “Big Handsome Man.” Also, there are SSBBW and SSBHM, which stands for “Super-sized Big Beautiful Woman” and “Super-sized Big Handsome Man,” respectively. These are what FAs and FFAs tend to call attractive overweight people. I went searching through my old archives of FA information in my computer and managed to find an old chart explaining the weights of what is considered what:

Normal: <185lbs
Chubby: >185, <200lbs
Plump: >200, <250lbs
BBW: >250, <350lbs
SSBBW: >350, <550lbs

Now this chart can also go for BHMs and SSBHMs, as well. This chart happens to be a universal weight chart. However, it can be differentiated by height as well. For example, a woman who’s five foot two could weigh 350 pounds and be considered a SSBBW or a man who’s five foot eleven could be 250 pounds and be considered chubby instead of plump.

Of course, there is different terminology for the different type of women one can find. An overweight African-American female is considered a BBBW (Big, Beautiful, Black Woman), as well as an SSBBBW (Super-Sized Big, Beautiful, Black Woman). Also, an immobile woman could be considered an UltraBBW (Ultra-Sized BBW). However, the UltraBBW is rare, since not that many women are around the weight to be considered as such.

Strangely enough, there isn’t that many terms for the BHMs. In fact, BHM and SSBHM are the only terms I heard of. I have heard some males use the word “Rubenesque,” however.

Women who are BBWs or SSBBWs tend to feel bad about the way they look. However, most of them are pretty beautiful. It is society’s fault making them feel that way, because these women see girls like Paris Hilton or Kim Kardashian getting all the guys and being popular and everything. One instance that shows how BBWs are mistreated and wrongly portrayed in the media is the new Fox reality show, “More to Love.” These women are always complaining how bad they feel and how they can’t find a man because of their weight. Honestly, the only thing stopping from finding a guy are themselves. I know plenty of overweight women who have boyfriends and husbands, and some of them are bigger than those women on that show!

Honestly, if you’re a BBW, SSBBW, BHM, SSBHM, or anything in between, you should be proud. You all are extremely awesome and as attractive as any skinny girl or guy, if not better-looking! There’s absolutely no reason you should feel bad about the way you look. Don’t listen to the media when they say that you’re not attractive enough to find love, or that you shouldn’t go out and have fun because fat people don’t have social lives! You all are able to do anything you wanna do! So go out there and do it, and have fun while doing it! WAVE THAT PRIDE FLAG HIGH!

I’m back!

Don't think I forgot about this blog! Just had some things in my life to take care of, but I'm back now, and I'm working on the new blog post! So stay tuned!

Letter to the Big, Beautiful Women

Dear Big Beautiful Women of the world,

Never let anyone tell you that you're not amazing. You are some of the most wonderful, fantastic people on the face of the Earth. Some of you are our friends, some of you are our family, and some of you are even our lovers. You offer the world all that you are, and most of the time, you ask for nothing in return but our love and respect.

To the single women, do not fret. You will find someone who loves you no matter what. Don't give up, even if you have had bad relationships in the past. Those guys could not appreciate who you are, but there is someone out there who would. Never give up searching for the right one for you. For all you know, he could be right in front of you and you'll never know it. And women who have a good man, HOLD ON TO THEM. They love you for who you are, not how you look. If they tell you that you look like the most beautiful woman in the world, believe them instead of bringing yourself down because you think that you don't look good because of society's norms.

For the ones who feel as though you aren't as beautiful as they say, change that thought. Tell yourself in the mirror every morning that you are beautiful. Yes, there are women that are more beautiful than you, but remember that they aren't YOU. The only one who can tell you that you are one of the most beautiful women ever is you. And if someone says something negative about the way you look, don't sulk or tell them something negative. Just laugh and assure them that you know you are beautiful no matter what anyone says. Wear your cleavage out or your clothes as tight as you want to. People are going to be negative anyways to make themselves feel more superior. It's just how you react to the situation that determines if it works or not.

Don't feel bad about the way you are. If you like the way you are, then stay that way. If you feel as though you are beautiful, EMBRACE that feeling. Never let anyone bring you down about the way that you are. You are big, beautiful, and wonderful. Be confident in your curves! Eat what you wanna eat and don't feel guilty about it! Nothing will bring you down if you do. Society may say that the most beautiful women are a size 0, but that's their opinion. Don't let it be yours. Remember, even if you think that no one thinks you're beautiful or amazing, there is at least one person who thinks you are (me!).

Lover of all big, beautiful women everywhere,

Lloyd Louis Lee, III